Or is it?  

After all, how many happy people do you see in the media these days, hmm?  I don't see a runaway success  around a TV show with the marriage of Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson, two pretty happy and loving people.  

Books, TV shows and news headlines all trumpeting pain.  And we eat it up...  HMMMM?  We seem to enjoy watching suffering - at least from a distance.

Ever wonder why?  

It's an interesting fact.  When we survive something difficult or see someone doing it our brain is somewhat reassured that survival is possible.  

It's an spike of emotion - fear and/or pain that then releases chemicals in our brain that rush to make us feel better after hurting.  It's why people get hooked on cutting themselves.  

Our brain rushes to feel better after we hurt.  We feel soothed when someone else gets hurt and goes on ticking.  

But is this the only option?  Is it the best option?  Is the option you want - or have you been following the programming you had from childhood without knowing how or where to reset that particular impulse?

Well I have some options for you.  Those of you who follow me know I am ALWAYS a fan of choice.  So read on to find out where your wiring for pain can be replaced with something a little more appealing if you wish...

Depending on where this line ends, it tells us where your childhood thermostat was set for close relationships and creating things you love.

Look at your left hand for your private life and your right hand for your public life. 

The picture is labeled as to which lines are which - or you can always revisit my gift hand analysis on my homepage at TruthinHand.com.  Play as often as you like...

Earth - your strength is action, doing and sensory.  You learned in childhood that action is how to deal with feelings and the world was not seen as a safe place to feel your feelings.  It is in doing something that you felt safest.  

Your learning curve to get out of pain and into power/pleasure is around self-empowerment.  Giving yourself permission to want what you want and do what you want.  Until you learn this you can get stuck in challenges around people blocking your choices or trying to persuade you to do what they want.  

Water - your strength is in emotion and connecting with the depths of your own feelings.  You learned in childhood to pay more attention to others feelings as a means of being safe.  It is a challenge for you to feel your own feelings.

Your learning curve to get out of pain and into power/pleasure is empowerment one to one.  Knowing your own feelings, speaking up and expressing your emotions rather than giving into or getting lost in another's is your challenge to master.  Until you learn this you get swamped in the drama of those around you paying more attention to their hearts desires then your own.

Air - your strength is in thinking, reasoning, communicating and seeing the big picture.  You learned in childhood to be vigilant and smart thinking and verbalizing your way through challenges rather than connecting to what you feel.  You see problems from a distance with detached observation.

Your learning curve to get for power/pleasure is to tap into empowerment one to many.  Because you draw a bigger crowd, communicate to a greater mass you pressure yourself into getting it right and can become paralyzed with options, not wanting to get it wrong with the world watching.  Until you learn that the world benefits from you leading the way rather than in perfection you are always in the air traffic control tower keeping the world moving yet never on the plane yourself with those messy emotions and limitations, powerful but isolated.

Fire - your strength is intuiting what goes beyond the reasoning of Air.  Fire are the ones that when the world was considered flat with dragons out at the edges, they sailed off to find the brave new world (with earth hearts and heads rowing of course).  You learned in childhood that a great deal more was possible then what you could experience or communicate to the non-fire people.  

Your learning curve for power/pleasure is how to connect as an individual to the divine wisdom that is beyond expression.  Fire is here to serve using that greater knowledge for everyone's benefit.  Your fire is meant to be used to light the path and comfort or feed those around you rather than burning them with more heat than your inspiration can safely express at one time.  Containment through expression is a powerful tool in Fire's hands.

So now you have a little bit more about YOU and how you work.  At least starting with the heart line...and it is the top line on your hand for a reason.  The heart line is about what we love and how we love - and isn't that where we started the conversation?

Pleasure or pain.  It's always our choice.  We can and do expand when we put our minds to it... We change our mind and change those lines!

Join me for a two hour, hands-on coaching group starting Feb. 13th. at 8pm where  I teach you key things like more of what I just covered about YOU.  This is a 'how to' tailored for the way your are wired.  After all, you are uniquely you.  We are going to help rewire YOU for abundance.